REDUCE YOUR SENSE OF SELF IMPORTANCE
Most of our energy goes to upholding our own importance.
It is our ego that upholds our importance and will often get in the way of attracting our best life.
It is therefore essential to the conductivity of our magnet that we reduce our ego and its importance.
I have heard it said that the work of a coach can be likened to ‘ego reduction therapy’. An effective coach knows to keep in check their own ego’s need to have the answers and be right, in order to tap into the wisdom and answers their client already has.
When you decide to reduce your ego (the part of you that is full of fight and always wanting to feel justified and be right), you begin to expand yourself, your wisdom and the memory of your soul – who you are in essence.
The goal here is to bring these inner qualities to your outer material world and refrain from constantly trying to message your ego with affirmations of how important you are.
If you can do this, you will produce changes in your life in a gentler, more low-impact way.
Granted, if your job puts you in the middle of a dog-eat-dog world and you want to stay firmly in that field, reducing your importance will be a very difficult thing to do.
However, ego reduction helps bring about results in an unconventional way.
It may take a little longer to get results, but trust me, your investment in the process will be worth it.
You already have the innate ability to attract results this way, if only your self-importance would let you believe that was enough.
One of my first experiences with ego reduction will illustrate how this concept can be surprisingly effective in increasing your power to attract.
As soon as I gave up nursing for good, an invitation arrived for a party given by the University Student Association associated with my intake year. I decided to go, wearing the first business suit I’d ever bought, which I though of as my ‘I am in business now’ costume.
Since I had never been to an event like this before I was nervous about how I should behave and what I should say. I was not yet used to my new identity of ‘businesswoman’ and scared of networking, so I decided to use the magnet theory.
I would say nothing, avoid schmoozing, and see if I could attract people to me by being a magnet.
Once I was at the party, although my mind and ego were screaming that I should do something, I stood in the middle of the room and made eye contact only with whomever I wanted to.
At different times, several people stopped to ask who I was and what I did. By the end of the evening I had business cards from three potential clients, I remember one of them in particular, a woman who said, “There’s something about your energy, I don’t know, but I was drawn to talk to you”.
Our need to uphold our importance forces us to feel as if we have to impress or take action in order to have an impact.
I trust my example assists you to see how who we are can itself be enough.
