Relationships: in Life & Business
SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT…
THE 3 TYPES OF PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE….
- The Leaf people
- The Branch people
- The Root people
LEAF PEOPLE:
These are people who come into your life just for a season. You can’t depend on them because they are weak. They only come to take what they want, but if the wind comes they will leave. You need to be careful of these people because they love you when things are okay, but when the wind comes they will leave you.
BRANCH PEOPLE:
They are strong, but you need to be careful with them too. They break away when life becomes tough and they can’t handle too much weight. They may stay with you in some seasons, but they will go when it becomes harder.
ROOT PEOPLE:
These people are very important because they don’t do things to be seen. They are supportive even if you go through a difficult time they will water you and they are not moved by your position they just love you like that … It’s not all people you meet or are your friends, that will stay with you. Only the root type of people will stay no matter the season.
** Author Unknown **
“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they
feel seen, heard, and valued;
when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
– Brené Brown
The Living Truth of Relationships.
The healthiest relationships are those rooted in honesty and presence, not fantasy or false hope.
These relationships thrive on a deep commitment to a living truth, where two souls can share their authentic, real-time, embodied selves with each other.
Here, they can reveal their deepest truths – raw, messy, unresolved, unfinished, and rough at the edges – continually letting go of preconceived, conditioned ideas about how they ‘should’ be. In this crucible of intimacy, the relationship is continually renewed.
Inevitably, there will be ruptures, misunderstandings, and intense feelings of doubt, anger, fear, anxiety, and groundlessness along the way. However, there is a mutual willingness to face this mess as it arises.
To be vulnerable. To say, “I hurt. I am in pain. I feel deep sorrow,” without blaming the other for that pain.
To say, “I need some support,” without demanding it from the other.
To share desires, hopes, longings, and dreams without insisting that the other sees things the same way or meets all your needs.
This includes receiving both ‘no’ and ‘yes’ graciously, even when it hurts.
Staying in the crucible of transformation means looking with wide-open eyes at the present rupture, not turning away or clinging to how things used to be, or following other people’s ideas about how things ‘should’ be.
It means allowing second-hand concepts of happiness to burn up.
Sometimes, it means sitting together in the rubble of shattered dreams, expectations, plans, and hopes, working towards finding a place of reconnection, repair, and reconstruction.
This is the courageous and often intense work of relationships.
Even when we must start by admitting deep feelings of disconnection, this is a relationship that is alive. It makes space for our deepest longings, fears, and pains, without expecting the other to resolve these or take the hurt away. It asks the other to be a witness, a midwife for our own healing, and offers the same in return.
Such relationships inspire each other to find their own happiness, even if that means letting go of or ‘breaking up’ the relationship in its current form.
Love holds the other lightly; it does not cling or attempt to control. It only wants the best for the other, wants them to step into their power, live their fullest life, find their deepest joy, follow their original path, learn to love their bodies and their own deepest feelings, and find new ways to take care of themselves.
“I love you, and I want you to flourish.”
Relationship can be the ultimate yoga, an ever-deepening adventure and rediscovery of ourselves and each other.
It is a dance of aloneness and togetherness, not losing ourselves in either extreme but playing somewhere in the middle.
Sometimes coming together, sometimes moving apart.
Closeness and space.
Intimacy with the other, intimacy with self.
Breathing in, breathing out.
Relationship is not a destination but a living journey, forever a point of departure and a new beginning each day.
There is joy in that beginning and excitement in not knowing.
There is life in the continual death of expectations, in staying close to a healthy fear of loss and groundlessness, and finding new ground in the power of love itself.
As Eckhart Tolle says, relationships aren’t here to make us happy, for true and lasting happiness lies within us all, an unshakable presence that nobody can ultimately give us or take away.
Others will not complete us, save us, or resolve our deepest inner experience.
They will, however, expose our wounds and inner children, bringing them to the surface, crying out for empathy.
There is risk in revealing our raw hearts, our loneliness, vulnerability, sensitivity, joy, and ‘shameful’ secrets to another human being. The risk of being rejected, left alone, shamed, and ridiculed, or repeating the old patterns.
But a bigger risk, maybe, is to be loved for who we are. 
To be held in the blinding light of another’s fascinated attention, like a baby held tenderly by an adoring, attentive mother.
To be met in the present moment, nowhere to hide, nowhere to run.
To let in the new, risking the loss of the image, the false self, the carefully constructed persona, and allowing another to embrace our softness.
This is the highest possibility of relationship – to see another’s exquisitely delicate heart and to let our own soft heart be seen.
In this mutual seeing, there can be healing, transformation, and great beauty.
We become therapeutic vessels for each other, bringing medicine, encouragement, and companionship on this sometimes lonely path of coming alive before we die.
Perhaps it takes a lifetime to discover: the One you always longed for was actually deep inside of you.
To have that One reflected by another – a partner, friend, lover, therapist, animal, tree, mountain, the moon, or the vastness of the cosmos – even if only for a moment, is to know what we may describe as Heaven on Earth.
Big Love,
Michele & the LYBL Team
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