KNOW WHEN YOU ARE BEING SEDUCED

Have you ever been offered something that is too good to be true?

An incredible business opportunity, a free trip, and out-of-the-blue-invitation to attend a ritzy event?

When presented with opportunities like these, most of us will hear a small voice in the back of our minds asking, “what’s the catch?”

This little voice is probably trying to get you to pay attention to another key distinction to watch for as you uncover your true ‘wants’.

Often, something you want, such as saying “yes” to a seemingly great opportunity, is not a true opportunity, but rather a seduction.

The sooner you listen to that voice, the easier your life will be.

True opportunities benefit all parties involved – they are ecological.

You will feel a sense of ease and expanded possibility when presented with one.

A seduction, on  the other hand, usually means that you get something out of it temporarily, but the party offering it to you benefits a lot more. You get used as the offeror’s needs are met.

This sort of seduction usually does not feel free and unrestrained. You may sense tension or doubt about the other party’s intentions.

When you can feel the difference between an opportunity and a seduction, you can prevent yourself from expanding unnecessary energy in pursuit of a disappointing reward.

Your body’s clues – the feeling that something is not quite right – is your natural wisdom speaking to you.

Meet Jenny & Rod.

My client Jenny met Rod, a fellow consultant, at a conference.

Rod was looking for a new partner for a venue he was starting up. Although Jenny had a feeling immediatly that he was not to be fully trusted, he also seemed geniune, informed, connected and savvy. Jenny ignored her misgivings because she could not point to any specific reason not to get involved with this man.

It took two years and a lot of legal paperwork to get Jenny out of that relationship.

Sadly, Rod’s venue went bust.

Jenny lost time, money and a great deal of emotional energy in extracting herself from her professional relationship with him.

Despite our coaching, she had not been willing to trust what she ultimately knew was true until she had plenty of evidence that she had been seduced and not the recipient of an opportunity.

Unfortunately, by then, the damage had been done.